Prayer Ministry UP-IN-OUT

LogoAs we form groups at FCMC, we try to form them in a way that reflects the lifestyle patterns we see in Jesus.  I’m talking about Up, In, and Out.   But how will that work with a prayer group?

Quick review:

  • Up is about growing in our relationship with God, expressing our love to God, receiving from God, and hearing from God.  It is about knowing and being known by God more deeply.
  • In is about loving one another.  It’s about being with people to know and be known, to serve and be served, and to love and be loved.
  • Out is about meeting the worlds needs with God’s love, grace, and power.  It’s about God working through us to advance His kingdom.

So, our activity will be prayer.   We’re not sure when we’re going to schedule our meetings.  We’re getting together to (ahem) pray about it.  And we’ve had plenty of prayer at FCMC.  We truly believe that only God can bring about a network of micro-churches stretching across the First Coast for a movement of mission and discipleship.  Only God can revive churches and renew regions.  We know we can’t do this on our own so we’ve been praying.  But up until now, we have not had a dedicated prayer ministry or prayer group.  I am excited we’re about to start one.   We need one.

So how will we do Up-In-and-Out?   By praying!

In my mind, I tend to associate prayer with Up.  For that matter, when I teach about the Up component of missional community living, I point to the place in Luke 6 where Jesus spends the night in prayer.  I explain to people without much subtlety, “Jesus prayed. He spent time with the Father that way.  So Prayer is an obvious way to do Up.”

But prayer is often In and Out, too.  When we pray for one another, that’s one of the best forms of In.   A few weeks ago, I received prayer for healing and wow, did I feel loved and blessed by the people in the room.  In prayer, they led me to Jesus.  My love for the people in that room grew tremendously.

And when we pray for God’s kingdom to come and for His will to be done on earth as it is in heaven, that’s Out.   You catch the spirit of that kind of prayer in John Bunyan’s quote: “You can do more than pray, after you have prayed, but you cannot do more than pray until you have prayed.”

So that’s what we’re going to do.  We’re going to pray to seek God and to hear from God. We’re going to pray for one another.  And we’re going to pray for God’s Kingdom to advance on earth and especially on the First Coast.  We’ll do Up, In, and Out and may never leave the room we meet in.

So here’s an offer: if you are joining God in His work, we’ll be happy to pray for you.  Just send us an email or use the contact form below.

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Learning Easy Grace While Living Missionally

So I missed my chance on Saturday.  I’m trying to do this *BELLS strategy.  I lined up a group of people were praying for my “contact work” (aka relationship building) during my son’s soccer tournament.  I was looking for opportunities to meet new people and build or start relationships.  And one of the families of a kid on my team walked up to me and asked if our families could eat together.  We had a picnic lunch and they were going to a fast-food place.  I completely forgot that this was exactly the sort of situation I had prayed for.  It didn’t occur to me that we could have put our picnic aside.  Didn’t think about it until it was too late.  Dog-gone-it!

Good things are already coming out of that.  Here is some of the grace.

1) I got to share with my wife, Heather, that I’d missed the chance.  We had a good conversation and came out feeling like a team. You know, I hadn’t clued her in ahead of time. If I had thought to do so, she would have felt included, been prepared to help me catch the opportunity, and it would have felt like team work with God – which is always fun.  (And we would have enjoyed a picnic supper.)  I’ll try to include her and pray with her next time.

2) It has given me a lesson I can share with others – starting with my kids who were there and my huddle leaders.

3) We enjoyed the picnic anyway.  God is so kind.  

4) God’s mercies are new every morning.  It’s a new day.  God gives do-overs for these things.  

5) God, in His kindness gave me an experience to learn from and laugh about.  No condemnation.  No guilt.

6) God, in His sovereignty may have had this in mind all along.  

It’s a new day and a new week.  I wonder what will happen next?

*BELLS: Each week, Bless 3.  Eat with 3.  Learn Christ.  Listen for the Spirit.  See yourself as sent.  

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Remembering Why I Started FCMC

Revelation 5 describes a great day.  What a great day it will be when all of creation will sing praise to Jesus Christ the King of Kings.  On that day, God’s redemptive work will be complete.  Even now, His light shines in the darkness and the darkness does not overcome it.  It is astonishing that God would take on the form of a human being to redeem us.  On a personal level, God has entered into my mess and yours to bring us new, abundant life. He has blessed us!  What God has done for us he delights to do through us.

Of course, the “mess” isn’t just in us.  It’s all around us.  As I look around the First Coast, I see plenty of “mess.”   Some of it is quite obvious, like poverty, drugs, and areas with high crime. Some of it is hidden but well publicized: divorce, family breakdown, teen pregnancy, addiction, and even sex trafficking in our port city.  Some of it is hard to see and seldom reported: chronic loneliness, unloved kids, forgotten old folks, and the emptiness of consumerism, materialism, and the workaholic lifestyle.

But it is easy, I think, to forget that this is really about people.  People matter to God.  What happens to them can break the heart of God.  When the love of God fills our hearts, what happens to them breaks ours.  God wants to bring light and life to people trapped in darkness and death.  But how?

During my season as pastor of a traditional, suburban church, I’d sometimes recognize the mess all around us and feel helpless.  While the church would address a few material needs in the community, little was done to bring good news to the hearts of those living in the darkness.  We were busy and we were doing good things, but we seemed unable to answer the call to be a part of God’s work changing hearts around us.  That helpless feeling led me to cry out to God time and time again.

The Lord who hears our prayers and is faithful did not answer my prayers as I hoped.  He did not bring the change I wanted to see in the church.  Rather, he brought change to me.  First, He gave me a new and deeper love for my city along with a renewed passion for discipleship.  I found out I had so much to learn about both – and still do.  Then He led me, I believe, to discover missional communities.  I learned that God is working through networks of these lightweight, low maintenance micro-churches in cities around the world to help people grow as disciples while addressing the  world’s mess with His love, grace, and power.  And finally, He arranged for me to be released me from my old church freeing me to direct my energies to start FCMC.  But it would have all stopped there if God has not done one thing more.  He brought partners.  He brought you.  FCMC would just be an idea if it were not for you and others like you.

God has been so gracious to bring partners into this adventure.  I am so grateful.  I thank God for your partnership in advancing the Gospel on the First Coast.  In many ways, it feels like we are just getting started – but already, this work is bearing fruit in terms of discipleship.  Already, we have joined others in addressing the mess with the help of the ministries of Young Life.

And so again, I am deeply grateful.  Without you, I and others would be missing out on a great adventure.  Thank you for answering God’s call to be a part of First Coast  Missional Communities.   Our next worship service is June 8.  I hope to see you before then.

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To Live a Questionable Life

Francis of Assisi is often quoted as saying, “Preach the Gospel at all times.  Use words only when necessary.”   He didn’t actually put it that way, but according to his biographers, he probably would have agreed.  Francis lived the kind of life that was hard not to notice.  People wanted to know what was different about him.  One story sticks in my mind.  Francis traveled along on one of the Crusades.  He received permission to go to the Muslim camp to meet with the Sultan in order to try to convert the Muslims to Christianity.  The Sultan received him and another friar graciously and allowed Francis to speak. (He is reported to have preached using words, by the way.)  He didn’t make any converts – at least none that we know of.  However, it is very likely that he did win the respect of the Muslims because they allowed only the Franciscans to remain in the Holy Land even after the defeat of the Crusader Kingdom.

I tell that story because Francis’ actions were bold.  Anyone who voluntarily leaves a safe place and goes to a dangerous place to show and share the love of Jesus Christ gets our attention.  They earn our respect.  We wonder why they do what they do and how they do it.  In the best sense, the way they live raises compelling questions in our minds.  They are living “questionable lives.”

Many Christians adopt the strategy of living out their faith rather than talking about it.  I appreciate the sentiment.  I’ve known plenty of would be evangelists who would have been wise to keep their mouths shut.  Shoot, I’ve be that kind of evangelist.  And I know many Christians who do their dead-level best to live honorable lives, being nice, good neighbors.  But very few people are so intrigued by honorable living that they want to ask about it.  A nice, honorable life makes for a good neighbor.  I’m thankful for such a neighbor, but it doesn’t make me want to inquire.  I actually expect people to live nice, honorable lives.  I’m much more likely to inquire if my neighbor does something unexpected.  That means it needs to be noticeable, maybe exceptional.

I’ve got great neighbors, by the way.  One of them used to cut my grass.  That was unexpected.  I inquired.  He said he was doing it because I’m a pastor.  I was humbled and grateful. Basically, he was going out of his way to be a blessing.  A few years ago, my family started taking mission trips to Nicaragua.  It surprised people that we were taking our kids.  They inquired.  We’ve got another neighbor who adopted two special needs foster kids.   That was unexpected and huge!  A lot of people inquired.

What are you doing to cause people to inquire?  Got a plan?  It’s not that hard.  Buy a stranger a cup of coffee because they look like they are having a bad day.  They just might inquire as to why.  Start eating lunch once a week with a homeless guy in the city square. People will ask.  When a co-worker shares a story about a need, ask if you can pray for them about it and then do it – right there.  They’ll remember.  If you are intentional about being a blessing, you will begin to live a more adventurous, more questionable life.

Let me share some practical direction for all of this from a guy named Michael Frost.  He explains that to live a questionable life, it is best to be intentional about it, to have a strategy.  Here’s his.   It’s called BELLS.

Each week:

  1. Bless three people.  If you do, you’ll become known as a generous person.   Try to bless one who isn’t a Christian or a church person.  By the way, we do this because God has done it for us.  Did you know that some people don’t think the God of the Bible is gracious and compassionate – mainly because they don’t see it in us.  Bless three each week and that’ll begin to change in your world.
  2. Eat with three people. If you do, you’ll begin to share your life with people around you.  Try to eat with one person who isn’t a church person.  Did you know that some people think Christians are odd, selfish, or weird.  If you eat with someone and are simply a friend, those perceptions will likely change, too.
  3. Learn Christ.  Read the Gospels – Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.  Learn the patterns Jesus lived.  It will bring healing, perspective, and hope to your daily life and you’ll find insight for being a blessing.  Also, you’ll gain competency in living like Christ.  When you wonder how Jesus would handle a situation, you’ll find you have an answer.  When you need inspiration and motivation, you’ll probably get that, as well.
  4. Listen for the Spirit.  God wants to lead us.  Really.  If you learn to discern the promptings of the Spirit of God, you’ll begin to be where God wants you and prepared to be who God wants you to be in situations.   If you do, your life will be more adventurous – complete with the joys and struggles.
  5. See yourself as sent by God.  Do this, and your life will take on deeper meaning.  In John 20:21, Jesus tells his disciples, “As the Father has sent me, so I am sending you.”  That’s astounding to me.  If we see ourselves as sent by God, everything is given new and deeper meaning.  There is no higher purpose or calling.  You and I are on a mission from God.

So let’s go!  Bless three.  Eat with three. Learn Christ.  Listen for the Spirit.  See yourself as sent.  B.E.L.L.S.   I’ve been at it already.  Yesterday, I began the day with prayer and decided to live like someone who’d been sent.  I won’t go into details, but the day became kind of adventurous and fun.   Give it a try.  See what happens.  Maybe someone will want to know what the heck you’re doing.

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Missional Community Question and Answer

My friend Marilyn Beyer asked me these questions in preparation for a presentation in one of her seminary classes.  I thought I’d share.  Her questions are in bold.

Why missional communities?  Why now? 

Why now?  The simple answer is that it comes out of a sense of calling.  It wasn’t a thundering voice sort of thing, but through prayer, circumstances, scripture, and the big “C” Church, I sensed God preparing me, training me, and leading me to start missional communities.

The two words are key.  The first word, missional, is about God having a mission in the world and inviting us into it.  We don’t do mission for God.  God has a mission and we get to have a role in that.  The second word is something God created us for: community. So God’s redemptive and creative purposes come together in missional community.  It’s never the wrong time for that.

Some say,  “well, that’s just the church.”  And I think some churches do experience and express missional community.  But in my 30 plus years of local church experience, when those two things came it was beautiful, but also accidental.  And worse, sometimes church culture didn’t support it.  (And that’s being kind).  What we’re doing at First Coast Missional Communities is trying to do the missional and community pieces very intentionally.  That’s why we say, “we’re a church of missional communities.”

What would be your ‘1 or 2 minute elevator speech’ if someone asked you “What is a missional community?”?

It depends on who’s asking, but my general answer is something like this:  We gather for worship once a month on second Sundays, but between times, we meet in homes in these groups we call “missional communities.”   We have 15 to 50 people in each MC and we organize our life together around Up, In, and Out.  “Up” is about seeking God, so we worship, pray, and study the Bible.  “In” is about doing life together, so we have fun together, sometimes we go places together, and usually we eat a lot of good food.  “Out” is about meeting needs with the love of God and serving in our community, which we think is very important.  We do these three things because when we look at the life Jesus lived in the Bible, he lived that way.

In the “elevator speech”, I don’t usually explain a very important piece of the MC puzzle. Each MC has a very specific, clearly defined vision for mission.  Each MC has one mission that it focuses its energy and effort on.  This keeps the group focused and allows it to have a deeper impact in one area.  If Mother Theresa advised that we do small things with great love, for MCs, I’d say do a focused thing with great love.  MCs come up with that vision for mission on their own, so there’s usually high ownership already.   But we ask them to stick with one particular vision for mission for one year.  That takes a bit of discipline.

Also, I don’t usually explain how discipleship works in an MC, either, or that MCs can multiply on their own.

What do you envision the missional community looking like in 1 year? 5 years?

In 1 year?  That’s a good season for learning – so I think an MC would be a little wiser.   But that’s not enough time.  In five years, I think an MC would still look roughly like the one described above: 15-50 people, doing Up, In, and Out.  But if an MC met over that length of time, I envision it being transformed by the work of the Holy Spirit into a beautiful, incarnational, expression of the Body of Christ.   It would look like God working through an extended family whose members resemble Christ to bless the world.

Authentic community takes time.   MCs are a great way to get there.  I would love it if observers said like the Roman’s did, “see these Christians, how they love one another.”

Do titles like ‘pastor’ matter in a missional community?  What does leadership look like?  Is theological education necessary to lead a missional community?

I don’t know how much the title matters, per se.  The title may yield respect or suspicion. But the role of the pastor matters.  In Ephesians 4, there is a list of five titles for equipping ministers within the church: apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers.  These ministers equip us for the work God has for us.  As a pastor of missional communities, I am more focused than ever on equipping others.

FCMC is a church of missional communities.  When we organized our church, we decided that I would meet regularly with and report to a church board.  I make myself accountable to them.

Within our missional communities, we have two leadership titles.  We have MC leaders and MC hosts.  The leader directs the MC on the front end with the hosts.  Over time, with training, the task of leading the MC is transferred to the hosts.  The training is formal and highly relational.  It happens in what we call “discipleship huddles”.  Right now, I’m the leader of our two MCs and meeting in two huddles with the hosts of each MC.  After about a year, (in theory) the hosts would be equipped in discipleship, leading the MC, and meeting with others in huddles of their own.  They would become the leaders who are training others.  We are very intentional about this.

About theological education, I certainly find it very helpful and use it every day.  It helps a great deal for preaching, brings confidence when discipling, and there’s always a need for pastoral care and counseling.  I would think any network of missional communities would benefit from a relationship with a pastor.   However, a lot of what I do I am passing on.  The leaders and hosts of MCs are lay-people, but by training them in discipleship they are enjoying a form of theological training and practice, too.  It’s a source of joy for us all to see God at work in one another.

How often do you worship?  When?  Where?  How is this decided?d

For now, once a month we gather everybody we can at public spaces.  We’ve used a park pavilion, a pavilion in a soccer complex, a home, and (our favorite place) a pool house that seats about fifty and has a great little kitchen and facilities.  At this level, the decision is based on the availability of the pool house.  We find another spot when it’s not available.  We also held a special service at the beach (Good Friday Sunrise).  I’ve told them that when we hit 200 in worship, we’ll start holding worship weekly.  But we encourage MC members to worship in other local churches.  For that matter, we have good, supportive relationships with three near-by churches and we encourage folks to send their kids to their youth and children’s programs.

Beyond visible presence in the community, how do you spread the word about your missional community?

Word of mouth is key.  Each missional community has a very particular mission.  “The mission that is the magnet,” they say.  When people are in a community serving in a way that is exciting and interesting, they tell others about it.  It’s slower than advertising or door-to-door campaigns, but a compelling mission not only attracts people, it helps them stick (as does a healthy experience of community).

But we still send out an email newsletter, maintain a web site and a facebook page (please “like” us), and tweet links to articles to anyone who follows “pastorjessealex”.  These mechanisms are more about communication with people who know us, but it does help spread the word to others.

How is a missional community different from a small group?

In some networks, mcs are small groups are small groups.  We call them “missional small groups” until they hit fifteen.  We are learning about missional communities from a ministry called 3dm (Mike, Sally Breen, and company).  3dm’s approach to missional communities calls for larger groups.   They say, “big enough to dare, small enough to care.”  For that matter, sometimes there are two or three small groups organized within a missional community.

By definition, a small group has under fifteen folks.  Our communities are larger than that.  Sociologist Edward T. Hall identified groups of under fifteen as “personal space size”  and groups of fifteen to seventy as “social space” sized groups.  (Above that, you hit public space.)  So, one difference between our mcs and small groups is that social dynamics change when you hit that number.  For example, it’s easier to include new people in social space groups.  And it’s easier to divide if needed.

Where do you go from here?

Well, our strategy is pretty simple, and we will keep working it.  We will pray a lot and focus on getting better at doing these three things:

1) developing leaders, imparting skills for discipleship and leadership.

2) trying to launch healthy missional communities (at a sustainable rate).

3) gathering to worship God and celebrate what God is doing in and through missional communities.

If God is gracious and if we are faithful, I think this could be a movement that impacts our city.  We are praying that this spreads across the First Coast, releasing God’s love and grace all across Jacksonville.  In twenty years, we’d love to see 200 missional communities around the First Coast.

Pray for us.

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