One Idea on the Art of Neighboring

One of my mentors, Wayne Bauer, gave me a book a few weeks ago called The Art of Neighboring.    (You can learn more here.)

I want to share one idea that made me think and reflect.   A group of pastors was challenged by their mayor to call their people to be good neighbors.  He said that most of the ills in their city would be addressed if people just figured out how to be good neighbors.  As the story goes, an expert on these things – a sociologist – said that studies showed that Christians were not really any better at being neighbors than their non-Christian counterparts.

Hmm.  We need to do something about that.  No excuses.   Jesus said that the second greatest commandment is….  Love your neighbor as yourself.

So I just want to celebrate the huge baby steps some of our missional community hosts took  a couple of weeks ago by hosting a pot-luck dinner for neighbors.  That’s a win.  And others hosted an ice cream social for people on their block.  That’s another win.

Okay.  Go thou and do likewise.  Take a little initiative and connect with your neighbors.  Get to know them, their families, and things about them.  I understand a mayor said it would go along way toward reversing the ills in his city.  I wonder what would happen here  if we got serious about loving our neighbors.

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Huge Baby Steps

So, last week some of the people I am working with decided to do something on their own.

This is very exciting.  You may not think it’s all that much after you read it.  You may think it’s a little thing.  If you have ever led a program or started a ministry, you may see it as pretty small.  But trust me, it’s huge.

Last weekend we were out of town for a wedding – I’ll write about that some other time.  Without consulting with me or asking for my okay, the hosts of our missional groups organized events to connect with their neighbors.  Norma and Andrew stepped out and invited their immediate neighbors over for a pot luck (about eight homes.)   Taking a page out of Mike Breen’s book, Leading Missional Communities, they were intentional about including Cathy Durham from their MC in the gathering.  Kent and Kris organized an ice-cream social with their good friends Andy and Stephanie – who have been involved in our missional communities in the past.  Kent invited everyone on their street (about ten homes).

Yep.  It’s huge.

Okay.  Why is it huge?

1) God has given them a love for their neighbors, and they did something with it.  Taking initiative to love your neighbors is huge.  Jesus called it the second greatest commandment.

2) They saw themselves as sent by God to bless their neighbors.  Jesus said, “As the Father has sent me, so I am sending you.” (John 20:21)  That’s apostolic.

3) They took the opportunity to plant seeds of love and grace.  Yes, we’d love it if these folks came into our missional communities, but they didn’t invite people over to pull them in.  They simply lived missionally in their neighborhood.  I believe those actions reveal something of the love of Jesus and by doing them we will find the people Jesus is drawing to himself.

4)  They did it on their own – in response to Christ.  I didn’t push for it, organize it, lead it, or hold them to it.  I had talked about it off and on for some time – recently a bit more.  I had prayed for this sort of thing to happen – for that matter, a few weeks ago, I began inviting Andrew outside before we would meet for discipleship in order to pray for his neighbors.  They welcomed whatever advice or encouragement I could give.  And Heather and I have modeled this sort of thing with our family.   But really, they did it on their own on when we happened to be out of town.

I’m excited and grateful – for what God is doing in the lives of Andrew, Norma, Kent, and Kris, for what God is doing in their neighborhoods, and for the joy of seeing God at work.  I am praying for a movement of mission and discipleship on the First Coast and this has some of the trappings of movement!

So, was it a big success?  It depends on how you measure success.  They were not overrun with crowds.  Nobody who came decided on the spot to join the associated missional community.   In both cases, a neighbor who promised to come, who seemed excited about the event, did not show.  There’s some disappointment there.  But…

The neighbors who came appreciated it and were open to doing something like that again.   Andrew, Norma, Kent, and Kris made connections at a deeper level with neighbors they had not really known very well before hand. And they had fun.  Those who came were a mix of Christians and non-Christians, churched and un-churched, discipled and undiscipled.  And Jesus was there at work in neighborhoods on the First Coast.

So organizing a pot-luck or ice-cream social isn’t all that hard to do, is it?   Inviting neighbors you don’t know may be a little uncomfortable, but it’s really pretty easy.  It just takes a little initiative and thick enough skin to handle a bit of rejection.  It’s a little missional baby step.  But from my perspective, that baby step is huge.

Please join me in praying for God to do a wonderful work through these huge baby steps.

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FCMC Worship Gatherings Move To Saturday Nights

FCMC is really excited to let you know that beginning next Saturday, October 11, FCMC will begin gathering weekly to worship at 6:30pm.  We are calling this new worship ministry “Embraced by Grace” where we will have the opportunity to respond to what God has done for us.  Most Saturdays, we’ll be at Faith Community Church located at 3450 W CR 210.   When we gather,

  • We’ll celebrate God for who He is and what He has done, especially on the First Coast.
  • We’ll pray.
  • We’ll listen for God’s Word.
  • We’ll celebrate communion.
  • We’ll look for ways to join God in what He’s doing around us.

At most of our gatherings, our pastor, Jesse Alexander will be preaching.

Moving to Saturday nights feels like something God has led us into.  There has been wonderful confirmation and support.  We are deeply grateful for the support of area churches and especially for the generosity of Faith Community Church in allowing us space for our gatherings.

Saturday nights.  6:30pm. Hope to see you there.

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The Absolute Best Place and Time to Connect with Un-Churched Kids

“As the Father is sending me, so I am sending you…”  – Jesus (John 20:21)

This is not going to be a subtle, clever, insightful post.  Really, I’m just going to state the obvious.  The best place to connect with kids who don’t go to church is pretty much anywhere away from the church.  And a really great time to do that is Sunday morning.   Because on Sunday morning, unchurched kids are not at church.  For that matter, unchurched people are usually not at church on Sunday morning.

Maybe I’m stating the obvious because I am slow.  And I also know that many “churched” people are out on Sunday mornings, too because of work, family, play, exhaustion, burn-out, etc.  And I also know that many unchurched people are already following Jesus but can’t/haven’t/don’t want to join a local congregation.  And I know many churches meet at times other that Sundays.   But I think my point still stands.  If you want to connect with people who have no church, go away from your church during the times your church usually gathers.  You’ll probably find some.

For thirty years now, I’ve been leading in churches.  A lot of that was in youth ministry or in support of youth ministry.  The churches I was a part of were pretty evangelistic when it came to youth.  We wanted to have good ministry for our own kids and we wanted kids who didn’t have a church to come into our church’s youth ministry.   We did that because we loved Jesus, loved kids, and wanted kids to love Jesus.   But when the task of gathering kids was hard – and it was usually hard – I was pretty good at looking at the cultural competition of sleeping in, out door activities, sports leagues, clubs, etc. that seemed to encroach on church times.  I was not alone.  Our culture doesn’t particularly favor church activity anymore.  Still, I don’t know why it never occurred to me that I was missing the obvious.  If we really wanted to connect with unchurched kids, a great way to do it would be to go out and away from the church building at our usual church gathering times.

Objections?  Of course.  Gathering together as a church is important and we need to keep that habit, promote that habit, and pass it on.  We need to gather regularly for practical reasons.  If we don’t schedule gatherings, people won’t gather.  But when we only gather to worship, to learn, to read scripture, to pray, and to be with one another, we’ve missed out on something powerful: gathering to go out, gathering for mission.  It is very easy for people outside our churches to watch what we do and get the impression that being a Christian is about going to meetings to do boring stuff.  (Are they right?)  Well, we were made and are being re-made for more that that.

In Luke 6:12-19, Jesus is up on mountain praying.  And then, still on the mountain, he names the twelve disciples so that he can be with them.   Prayer, worship, Bible Study, time with other disciples, hmm, that sort of describes Sunday morning church gathering stuff.  That is mountain top stuff.   But the first thing Jesus does after naming the disciples, the first thing he does to train them in discipleship is bring them with him down the mountain into the level places to proclaim the kingdom, heal, cast out demons, and meet needs.

Here’s an idea for a church leader or youth leader.  Make arrangements to take a few Sundays off.  Go out.  Look around.  See what God may be calling you into.   What you see , hear, and experience may surprise you.

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